Re-traumatisation: Male Violence Against Women

*On account of the fact that the contents of this article are issues that the author is personally affected by, this article may not be up to her usual standard. Re-traumatisation sucks – there are no two ways around it. Things could be fine and going so well for you, then BAM: one tiny triggerContinue reading “Re-traumatisation: Male Violence Against Women”

Women’s body hair: our bodies, our choice

Recently, I made the decision to totally grow out all of my own body hair. Since then, I have experienced a whole array of reactions from family and friends. These have ranged dramatically between open disgust on one end of the spectrum, to very enthusiastic support on the other, with some others ambivalently resting somewhereContinue reading “Women’s body hair: our bodies, our choice”

Spiritual Discovery

This latest lockdown for many has been a time of disconnection and misery; for others, it’s been a time of reflection and self-discovery.  For me, it’s been a pretty mixed bag. But, one thing for which I’m grateful that has arisen from yet another extended period of social isolation is my transition from being reallyContinue reading “Spiritual Discovery”

Losing Hearing

I’ve had hearing problems my whole life. Though most children contract ear infections and have burst ear drums, in the majority of cases, these issues pass with time as the ear heals itself. I never had the advantage of being of the fortunate many in this regard: once my ear drums burst, they stayed burst,Continue reading “Losing Hearing”

Gender dysphoria: one woman’s understanding of a complex and not yet fully understood state

Gender dysphoria (GD) – typically characterised by clinically significant distress concerning mismatch between one’s biological sex and their perception of their own gender – is often overlooked in both LGBTQI+ and mainstream cultures. This is most likely due to great confusion surrounding what it is – confusion that persists even within gender specialists’ circles; afterContinue reading “Gender dysphoria: one woman’s understanding of a complex and not yet fully understood state”

My Psychologically Abusive Relationship

*Names have been changed to protect the privacy of individuals. From 2016-2018, I was in a psychologically and sexually abusive relationship. I became depressed, and eventually suicidal, and have been struggling with my mental health ever since. Regardless, this is not a sob story. I just wish I’d had something like this to read atContinue reading “My Psychologically Abusive Relationship”

George Floyd

It seems so stupid and frivolous to be writing about boyfriends and identity right now (that’s what my latest post was going to be on). It’s such a privilege to be most concerned by the question of “Who am I?”, when people are being so heinously persecuted in the US right now because of theirContinue reading “George Floyd”

A letter to White People on ownership of language

Dear White People, Stop using damn slurs. Stop saying n****r; stop saying p*ki; stop saying f****t; stop using any slur applicable to a demographic that isn’t your own. It’s nasty, and it’s degrading – not only to those you target your hate speech towards, but also to yourself: you tarnish your character each time theseContinue reading “A letter to White People on ownership of language”

‘Normal People’: normal effects of abnormally detrimental parenting

In a recent conversation I had with a loved one, I heard him utter the words: “A shitty upbringing will not affect the person you will become; I have so many successful friends who reached that point who still came from a questionable beginning”. ‘Normal People’ on BBC iPlayer proves exactly how this is notContinue reading “‘Normal People’: normal effects of abnormally detrimental parenting”

Carole Baskin: The People’s Hero – not a savage

Why must it be that men are always socially excused from the worst crimes, more so than women from their mediocre ones? In twitter polls asking who is the most hated character of all the ‘Tiger King’ gang, Carole Baskin somehow always comes out at number 1, while petitions for her nemesis Joe Exotic’s exonerationContinue reading “Carole Baskin: The People’s Hero – not a savage”